In fact, I have barely mentioned marriage to him at all. So basically, a year of dating to find out if someone is in the marrying mode and if he wants to get married within the next two years. At 37, he should have a pretty good idea of what he wants after about 9 months. I want a family, and waiting on some man who never gets serious can rob that from me. No man is worth all the rest of my fertile years. I am 36 and dated my Fiance for 2 years before he proposed.
I think Cali Cat is right. At one year, you can bring it up for sure, but definitelty be light about it. I would not wait more than 2 years for a proposal.
I have already made peace with us just having one child. I assume you mean the previous relationships ended because you let the guy s know you were marriage minded?
You did the right thing by speaking up in the past. Oh yeah, and I also would not move in with him until we were married or within a few short months of being married. Tell me about it! My most recent boyfriend and I dated We were crazy in love… but he said it never occured to him to think about marriage.
He was only 29, but still. Boyfriend before that… we dated 1. We are still friends. Boyfriend before that, oy. I broke up with him very peacefully. In fact, I broke up with my last 3 boyfriends peacefully and amicably, but all for the same reason.
Everyone tells I attract commitment phobes, even my therapist says so! However, if I was sure it would happen and really loved him, waiting longer would be better than starting all over single. You have to give it its due course and hope for the best. Even at my age, if I were not with Fiance, I would not spend more than 6 months with someone without a clear commitment.
I say this because I dated someone for 6 years while he took his time making up his mind. If a man runs because you bring up marriage, like PP said, you dodged a bullet. We discussed marriage about 3 months in and knew that it would happen eventually just not so soon. We moved in together at the 2 year mark, that was commitment enough for me. Any guy you are dating Average time dating before marriage in 30s to know what your major milestones are going to be… Dating — Engagement — Marriage — House — Kids… maybe not the exact timeframe when you are first dating… but by 6 months he needs to know that these are facts of life for you… and they are starting to be discussed ie Does he want kids.
Somewhere between 6 months and year, there should be major progress on WHERE the relationship is headed … and a more definite timeframe put on each element. And it changes again when you are past the window for having kids. Pressuring him to marry and insisting he tell you where he stands on the marriage issue are two different things. Well, 3 years is the absolute maximum! I hope you have a productive and honest talk with your SO about your future within the next six months though.
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Closed If you were 33, how long would you wait? Yogachild 6 years ago Title says it all.
How long is too long? EffieTrinket 6 years ago Wedding: Sorry that was more commiseration than advice…. April Hi ladies! Your thinking seems very reasonable to me. BelliniChic 6 years ago Yogachild: You dodged a bullet. MidwestBride 6 years ago Wedding: Yogachild 6 years ago EffieTrinket: Martian 6 years ago Wedding: This Time Round 6 years ago Wedding: Any guy you are dating needs to know what your major milestones are going to be… Dating — Engagement — Marriage — House — Kids… maybe not the exact timeframe when you are first dating… but by 6 months he needs to know that these are facts of life for you… and they are starting to be discussed ie Does he want kids Somewhere between 6 months and year, there should be major progress on WHERE the relationship is headed … and a more definite timeframe put on each element.
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